Welcome to another enlightening episode of The Most Dwanderful Real Estate Podcast Ever! Today, we have a special guest, Brad Chandler, joining us to share his insights on overcoming self-limiting beliefs and unlocking your true potential. I’m Dwan Bent-Twyford, America’s most sought-after real estate investor, and I’m thrilled to dive into this conversation with Brad. Our motto at Dwanderful is “People Before Profits,” and if that resonates with you, you’re in the right place!
Who is Brad Chandler?
Brad Chandler is not only a successful real estate investor but also a powerful advocate for personal transformation. With his real estate investment company running smoothly, Brad has shifted his focus to helping individuals break free from limiting beliefs and achieve true happiness. His work centers around addressing deep-seated issues from childhood that affect people’s lives well into adulthood.
Brad’s journey to this point is both fascinating and inspiring. After years of navigating the highs and lows of business and personal life, Brad discovered that many of his struggles stemmed from unresolved childhood trauma. Today, he dedicates his time to guiding others through similar transformations, helping them uncover and address the root causes of their struggles.
Understanding Self-Limiting Beliefs: A Deeper Look
1. What Are Self-Limiting Beliefs?
Self-limiting beliefs are deeply ingrained thought patterns that hinder personal growth and success. They often originate from childhood experiences and shape how individuals perceive themselves and their capabilities. These beliefs can manifest in various aspects of life, including career, relationships, and personal well-being.
Brad Chandler’s work focuses on helping individuals identify and overcome these limiting beliefs. By addressing the root causes of these beliefs, people can break free from the constraints holding them back and live a more fulfilling life.
2. How Childhood Experiences Shape Adult Behavior
One of the key insights Brad shares is how unresolved childhood experiences can influence adult behavior. For instance, if a child grows up in an environment where they are consistently criticized or neglected, they may internalize these experiences and develop beliefs of inadequacy or unworthiness. These beliefs can persist into adulthood, affecting various aspects of their life.
Brad’s personal story illustrates this concept vividly. He shares how childhood experiences, including harsh discipline and parental conflicts, led him to develop beliefs that affected his decisions and relationships well into adulthood. Recognizing and addressing these childhood influences was crucial for his personal transformation.
Practical Steps for Overcoming Self-Limiting Beliefs
1. Start with Self-Awareness
The first step in overcoming self-limiting beliefs is self-awareness. Understanding the root causes of these beliefs and how they impact your life is essential. Brad emphasizes the importance of reflecting on past experiences and recognizing patterns that may be holding you back.
One practical tool Brad recommends is the Self-Love Quiz available at bradchandler.com/quiz. This quiz helps individuals assess their level of self-love and identify areas that may need improvement. It’s a simple yet effective way to gain insight into how self-limiting beliefs might be affecting your life.
2. Seek Professional Help
While self-awareness is a crucial step, seeking professional help can provide additional support and guidance. Brad’s approach involves working with clients to address childhood traumas and limiting beliefs through targeted interventions. Whether through coaching or therapy, professional support can facilitate breakthroughs and accelerate personal growth.
3. Embrace Self-Compassion
Self-compassion plays a vital role in overcoming self-limiting beliefs. It involves treating yourself with kindness and understanding, especially when facing challenges or setbacks. Brad’s journey highlights the importance of self-compassion in healing and personal development.
A Real-Life Example: Brad’s Journey to Transformation
1. From Business Success to Personal Freedom
Brad Chandler’s journey is a testament to the power of addressing self-limiting beliefs. Despite achieving significant success in his real estate business, he found himself struggling with personal issues rooted in childhood experiences. His decision to confront these issues led to profound personal growth and freedom.
Brad shares a compelling story about his experience with buying a boat and navigating to the Bahamas without prior knowledge of chart reading. This seemingly adventurous decision was, in reality, a manifestation of his underlying need to prove himself and seek validation. This realization was a turning point in his journey, leading him to address the deeper issues affecting his life.
2. The Impact of Self-Love and Personal Growth
Brad’s transformation underscores the importance of self-love and addressing self-limiting beliefs. By confronting and resolving these issues, he was able to achieve a greater sense of personal freedom and happiness. His story serves as an inspiration for others seeking to make similar changes in their lives.
Journey of Healing and Self-Discovery
When I married Bill, our family expanded from three to five, blending our lives and our children’s experiences. My three kids, all millennials, have embraced a journey of self-discovery, delving into counseling, self-help books, and healing their own childhood traumas. It was eye-opening for me, especially when I realized that while I didn’t consciously cause their trauma, my responsibility to support them remained.
Transformative Experiences Through Adversity
1. The Power of Uninterrupted Time
Bill and I faced a challenging period when he underwent a stem cell transplant. It was a year of intense focus on our relationship, with just the two of us navigating the journey together. This period of isolation, while born out of hardship, became a profound time of connection and growth. We spent countless hours talking, reading, and exploring our faith together, which strengthened our bond in ways we hadn’t anticipated.
2. Finding Blessings in Adversity
While many saw our challenging year as a time of suffering, we chose to see it as an opportunity for growth. The stem cell transplant, though difficult, provided us with uninterrupted time that allowed us to deepen our understanding of each other. This perspective shift helped us to cherish and make the most out of our time together.
The Power of Self-Love
Self-love emerges as a pivotal theme in their discussion. Brad suggests that the key to a fulfilling life lies in recognizing and embracing self-love. According to him, when we understand that we are inherently enough and worthy of happiness, it transforms every aspect of our lives—from relationships to personal health and financial stability.
Dwan Bent-Twyford adds to this by reflecting on how continuous personal growth and self-discovery are essential. She acknowledges that even after uncovering much of her own issues, there’s always room for further growth and understanding. This aligns with Brad’s perspective that self-love is a journey rather than a destination.
Finding Joy in the Everyday
Throughout the conversation, both guests share their personal joys and preferences, adding a human touch to their insights. Brad’s favorite time of day is when he unwinds in bed with a book on brain science, while Dwan treasures quiet moments at night with her family. These preferences highlight the importance of finding personal peace and joy in the mundane aspects of daily life.
Setting and Achieving Goals
Brad’s ultimate goal is to help one million people find freedom and happiness by overcoming their limiting beliefs. He emphasizes that this mission stems from his own experiences and the desire to make a difference in others’ lives. As Brad approaches his 50th birthday, he envisions living to 110 and continuing to impact others positively. This ambitious goal is a testament to his commitment to personal and communal growth.
Conclusion
The discussion between Brad Chandler and Dwan Bent-Twyford offers valuable lessons in dealing with fear, embracing self-love, and finding joy in everyday moments. By addressing subconscious fears and cultivating self-love, individuals can transform their lives and achieve lasting happiness. As Brad aptly puts it, self-love is not just about feeling good but about recognizing your inherent worth and potential.
For those interested in delving deeper into these concepts, Brad Chandler’s podcast, “How to Be Happier for Entrepreneurs,” provides further insights and practical advice. Embracing these principles could be the key to unlocking a more fulfilling and empowered life.
Thank you for joining us in this exploration of personal growth and self-discovery. Remember, as Dwan Bent-Twyford says, “The truth is in the red letter,” and by understanding ourselves better, we can all strive towards a more enriched and meaningful existence.
